Are you comfortable with yourself?

Are you comfortable with yourself?

Yes, I am. Why not?

Ok, then tell me, when do you feel good to be with you?

Many times.

Will you recall and share those moments…please../

umh….  Not able to recall so aptly… but many

Ok… just try to tell me when you were not comfortable with you or not happy with you?

Oh.. so simple…now that you are asking so not feeling good/ not comfortable or when I am not able to do what I want to do or in the manner in which I want it to be done etc.

Umh….will you illustrate why?

I want to do what I want and the way I want…so not comfortable…

But why. Feeling uncomfortable?

I am not in the frame of acceptance it comes, so it stresses me as it compels me to think, feel, act what I did not want.

Is it always necessary for what you want, that only happens?

I don’t think so, but still, I always wish that to happen

Why?

To feel good. It pampers my ego…I feel empowered…so

So?

I cannot explain, but it is winning feeling

Ok, do you think something which is not happening the way you want, you work on it, and you feel fine. any such experience…

Yes, it could, but it takes long…I have formed a habit to seek pleasure immediately, not like to wait for it.

Ok, if I ask, after working on the problem and when you achieve, how do you feel?

Good, better

Is there a difference between the immediate gratification and achieved or fulfilling the wish with efforts?

Of course, they later give more satisfaction or sense of fulfilment than the previous one

That means you are more satisfied and happy when you achieve the task, more winning feeling

Yes, it can be said like this

Will you like to summarize what we discussed…?

Yes, I am not comfortable when certain unexpected thing come which is not my choice but I think if I take this as a challenge and try to solve then I will get sense of fulfilling and comfort …it is my winning….i think it is greater…not to run away from the problems…problems are for solving…rather it is more challenging and adventurous. It will help me to move on but most of the things which is happening the way I wish, may give immediate gratification but it lose its charm of sense of achieving something.. it might be uncomfortable for some time but in long run helps to develop tolerance, calmness, resistance, composedness. I start learn to believe in myself and my strength and also trust in myself that I can…. possibly all this.

Ahha…. You have summarized all spoken and also what you went through in the form of reflections. Now I think we can start talking on the topic which we began with.

Making yourself comfortable with yourself

How will you make comfortable yourself with you?

When I will feel happy with myself ..

When will you feel happy?

When I will not expect everything the way I want, I will learn to accept the things as it is and then work on it with patience, trusting on my abilities and having confidence that I will solve the situation get the things the way now I want …..

Good.

Any other thing to make yourself comfortable……

1.       Trust in self

2.      Faith in self

3.      Unconditional acceptance of self

4.      Accept GIVENS as GIVENS; once you accept it, the sky is the limit for development

5.      I have the power to manage my self

6.      I have courage, tolerance and confidence to solve any problem or situation I am not comfortable with.

7.      Any problem has a solution .. trust it

8.      Discomfort leads to comfort when I want, I can and I will

9.      Everything is not like fast food .. always ready to consume, but some time in low fume the food is cooked which preserve nutrients, native fragrance and taste

For all

I need to be a friend to me…

I need to love my self

I need to trust myself

I need to feel worthy of myself…

Then NOBODY can ever make me uncomfortable with myself.