Relationship Zen

Hi.....

Today I received a beautiful and interesting whatsapp Image. Which I decided to share with you.

Here it is:


Very interesting Venn diagram with intersections which explains the relationship Zen.

It helps us to understand how one needs to or prefers to deal with people around.

There are four conditions:
  1. People who like you
  2. people  who don't like you   
  3. People you like
  4. people you don't like   
There are many people around us. we have interactions with them, with some we feel good, some give us stress, some create tensions and guilt, etc. This diagram helps us to understand the reason to some extent...like

You can ENJOY the relationship with the people you like and the people who like you. A win -win situation where both of you enjoy with each other.

You can ACCEPT the relationship with the people you like and  people who do not like you. A win-lose situation because you like the person, accept him/her but always remember that he/she does not like you so no expectations....The  moment you expect from them you will be at lose. You are accepting the relationship because you like it, not the vice versa , i.e. not otherwise.

You can RESPECT the relationship with the people who like you and people you don't like. This very interesting. you do not like certain people but  certain people like you, they deserve to get respect from you as in spite of your dislike they like you.

you can AVOID the relationship with the people who don't like you and people you don't like. This is very simple and expected when no one likes each other, avoid such relationship. This may give pain, rejection,neglect or many more negative emotions so it is better to AVOID such relationship.

It is an individual choice to like or dislike. It needs to be accepted, respected, appreciated and acknowledged unconditionally. No one can ever force any one to like or dislike each other. 

Don't you think many of our problems are because of this only? Can we help ourselves to acquire little wisdom for it?

Yes, we can and we will, to make our and other's life happy and peaceful...No expectations unnecessarily...

But there is a huge task to identify these genuine people in our life
  1. Who are the one I like?
  2. Who are the one I do not like?
  3. Who are the one like me? and 
  4. who are the one do not like me?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              let us try to understand the relationship with which we need to live....and enjoy it dignifiedly 



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